"Mother's Day" - when you hear someone or read something with those words, how do you feel? Lucky are those who can celebrate that day with both their children and their Moms. But, this widely celebrated and publicized day evokes so many emotions to those dealing with the loss of a child or their Mom. What do you do on Mother's Day when you'd rather stay in bed until this day is over.
Here are a few ideas...
One of the most common ideas is to visit a cemetery or memorial location. Some common ideas include:
- Placing Flowers
- Releasing Balloons
- Decorating the grave site with Memorial Stones, Flags, Etc.
- Praying and Meditating Quietly
- Reflect with family and friends: Share stories, read scripture, pray and reflect together.
Here are some of my favorite ideas:
Create a scrapbook: How therapeutic would this be? Visit a craft store and find stickers, special paper, and cutouts that remind you of your Mom or Child. Be sure to pick up some blank decorate paper to add special notes in your scrapbook. Dig out your favorite photos and memories. Sit down with a cup of tea and tackle this project with laughter and tears. Then, you are left with a beautiful and sentimental memorial scrapbook.
Write A Letter: Release your emotions with a letter to your Mom or Child. Share you feelings, updates on your life, or write what you miss about your Mom or Child. This can also be therapeutic and make you feel closer to your loved one and find peace.
Create A Memorial Garden: With Mother's Day comes Spring! Plant a memorial garden and contribute to it every year. Start small with some of your favorite flowers .
As the years progress, you can add items like memorial wind chimes, memorial garden stones, trees and markers.
Simply Reflect at Home After the Loss of a Mother: Do you have one of your Mom's favorite recipes? Do you have special memories of certain songs she played? What about a favorite sent or candle she burned? You can do some baking, play music and/or light a special scented candle remembering your Mom and celebrating the memories she left behind.
Self Care After the Loss of a Child: Pamper yourself. Get a manicure or pedicure. Plan a massage. Read your favorite book. Take a bath. Most important, do what makes you happy, not what you "think" you should do.
My thoughts go out to all Mothers, all Daughters missing their Mothers, and those Mothers missing their Child on Mother's Day. Plan ahead and find something to do so this day doesn't catch you by surprise. Remember, your friends and family want to help and be there for you. Reach out...